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The Twitter Space Swearing Ukrainian with Margo 101 hosted by MargoGontar. Explore the captivating world of Ukrainian swearing and cultural intricacies with Margo 101, a passionate Journo from Kyiv. Discover how language serves as a vital pillar of cultural heritage, reflecting societal norms and fostering community cohesion. Support Margo's work in preserving authentic cultural expressions and promoting cross-cultural understanding through the lens of linguistic creativity and diversity. Dive into discussions on the intersection of language, art, and culture, gaining valuable insights into human expression and the significance of linguistic nuances in shaping our shared narratives.
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Questions
Q: How does Ukrainian swearing reflect cultural nuances?
A: Ukrainian swearing serves as a unique reflection of cultural identity and societal norms.
Q: What role does language play in preserving cultural heritage?
A: Language acts as a crucial vehicle for passing down traditions and preserving cultural authenticity.
Q: How does swearing impact communication in different cultural contexts?
A: Swearing influences communication styles and can vary significantly based on cultural backgrounds.
Q: Why is it essential to support independent creators like Margo?
A: Supporting independent creators like Margo helps preserve and promote diverse cultural expressions.
Q: How can language creative expression contribute to community cohesion?
A: Creative language expression fosters a sense of belonging and unity within communities.
Q: What is the significance of linguistic diversity in cultural discussions?
A: Linguistic diversity enriches cultural dialogues and enhances cross-cultural understanding.
Q: How does language intertwine with artistic representation?
A: Language serves as a foundational element in artistic expression and cultural representation.
Q: In what ways can linguistic content promote cultural awareness?
A: Linguistic content opens doors to cultural understanding and appreciation.
Q: Why is it crucial to explore the connection between language and societal norms?
A: Understanding the link between language and societal norms sheds light on cultural dynamics and identities.
Q: How does Margo 101 contribute to the discourse on language and cultural heritage?
A: Margo 101's work highlights the importance of language in preserving cultural heritage and fostering dialogue.
Q: What insights can be gained from discussions on language, art, and culture?
A: Analyzing the intersection of language, art, and culture provides deeper insights into human expression and societal values.
Highlights
Time: 00:15:42
Exploring the Richness of Ukrainian Swearing Delving into the diverse expressions and meanings behind Ukrainian swear words.
Time: 00:25:19
Cultural Depth of Linguistic Nuances Understanding how language intricacies reflect cultural intricacies.
Time: 00:35:55
Preserving Heritage Through Language The role of language in safeguarding cultural traditions and legacies.
Time: 00:45:30
Supporting Independent Cultural Advocates Encouraging the support of creators like Margo in preserving cultural authenticity.
Time: 00:55:14
Community Building Through Language How language unites communities and fosters cultural bonds.
Time: 01:05:02
Celebrating Language Diversity Embracing the multiplicity of languages for enriched cultural conversations.
Time: 01:15:48
Artistic Expressions of Language Examining how language intertwines with various art forms and expressions.
Time: 01:25:27
Promoting Cultural Awareness Through Linguistics The role of language in promoting cross-cultural understanding and appreciation.
Time: 01:35:10
Language Dynamics in Society Exploring the impact of language on societal structures and norms.
Time: 01:45:59
Margo 101: Championing Cultural Discourse Highlighting Margo 101's contributions to language preservation and cultural dialogue.
Key Takeaways
- Exploration of Ukrainian swearing as a cultural expression.
- Insight into the linguistic nuances and regional variations of Ukrainian swearing.
- Understanding the impact of swearing on communication and cultural identity.
- Appreciation of language as a vital component of cultural heritage.
- Supporting independent creators like Margo in preserving cultural expressions.
- Exploring the link between language, identity, and community cohesion.
- The role of linguistic creativity in self-expression and cultural representation.
- Acknowledgment of the importance of language diversity and preservation.
- Engagement with linguistic content as a means of promoting cultural understanding.
- Discussion on the intersection of language, art, and societal norms.
Behind the Mic
Introduction
Hi, and welcome to swearing Ukrainian with Margo. As usual, we're gonna start as it is. And, folks, usually some join us on the way and some join us later listening to podcasts. Anyway, the first order of business, just let me know. Do you hear me? Right. Hi. Hi, Viola. So just let me know. Hi, Terry. Just let me know. Do you hear me? Is the connection coming through? Because we had different stuff happening with sound as well as with Wi Fi. But, yeah. So just keep letting me know if you want to. Also, if you hear. Yeah, thanks. I'm seeing some zaps. I'm kind of guessing all is good. And if you're new here. So, my name is Margot. I'm from kievan, born and bred and raised, and Kiev is in Ukraine, just in case it doesn't ring a bell. But I kind of assume if you hear it does.
Discussion of Swearing
And here we talk about swearing. Well, I mean, we do talk about ukrainian swearing, obviously, but we also do talk here about swearing in general, whatever it means to every one of us. But also it kind of means about, you know, letting out your darkest side. I also really, really love, and I want to start with that because I usually start with you guys. And if you're itching to join me, you know, and talk the baddest swearing you use this week, please stay with me. I'm gonna give you the space for that, because this is what I'm here for, you know, to let you rent and vent. And also, if you're listening to this in a recorded, like, stage, please don't fret. Please feel free to share how much you swear.
Identifying Emotions
Like, if you swear this week and what you used, you can use comments or even direct message for that. I always love to know what helped you, but I just wanted to start with saying we had this talk with my therapist, and I'm sorry it was osteopath, because I have both. That's what gets me through. But she really said that, and I really enjoy that a lot. And I think that's not just something that, you know, I say Ukrainian can use and other Ukrainians, but that's just generally what we humans could use during, like, to be honest, quite tough times as they are right now. So she said, my great step of us, Tyler. She said that the resource is in the shadow, whatever that means for you. And I think this, the anger and the darkest, what we consider darker side, and that will be something very special for each of us.
Releasing Emotions
But if you want to take something from today, probably I would you to have this thought with you that maybe something that you push outside of yourself or maybe repress, that might be your biggest resource. When I say resource, you can understand it however you want, but I basically mean your fuel to some extent, right? So if you're feeling burnout, if you feel that you lack, you know, just lack, you know, fuel to go through your day, maybe you don't have war like we do, but certainly each of us, unfortunately, will be blessed with some amount of grief and trauma and really traumatic events and hard things to pull through.
The Importance of Anger
And so we all, at some point, will like that, if you will. And the idea is that you might look into your darker part, whatever. Again, that could mean for you. So it could mean you're allowing you to be aggressive, and that's also something that we talk here about. That's allowing you to swear once in a while. I'm nothing talking about, you know, using swearing as a coma. I'm not saying, like, okay, I need to change that word after my friend from being a coma and die, then. Coma doesn't sound that neutral anymore. And yeah, the laugh is nervous. That's a coping mechanism. Anyway, so I'm not. I'm not urging you to use the swearing words instead of any other words.
Communicating Needs
It's not about, you know, trying to show off as you. As you kind of, quote, being tough. Being tough doesn't have anything to do with swearing all the time, so. But I think we kind of passed this point, considering that we're meeting and seeing each other each week for more than a year now, which is very special for me, I gotta say. But this is about, you know, allowing yourself to let your frustration and anger out when it's justified and even when needed for it being allowed to be thrown in the face of those who wronged you. I mean, like, just recently, I had this. I had this moment, just, like, brief moment when, you know, actually someone I know you can say someone.
Personal Experience
Could I consider a friend or, like, at least a clause account. Acquaintance. Right. I hate that word. Just hard to pronounce. So. And this person is a man. He actually kind of reached my space, so he. I went out of, like, were in a cafe, I went out of the bathroom, and the man decided he can, you know, just fix my hair. And I was like, no, no. Like, you know, I was rude, but, like, because, like, the person, you know, breached my. My. Like, not only my, you know, how to say my. Not limits, but, you know, my boundaries, but also kind of like, because person did something that I don't feel comfortable.
Setting Boundaries
This person doing, you know, like, this is not the level of our closeness, so to speak. Right? Because I kind of feel that the one, like, maybe my girlfriends could fix my hair, my relatives could fix my hair. Like my mom, my sister. I wouldn't say my mom, but that doesn't go well since she also. Dad, I'm a fun to be around. I know a lot of dead people anyway. But also, like, I don't know, my partner, my boyfriend likes somebody I'm enrollment, maybe someone I'm flirting with, probably after some level of my trust. But, like, that's. And that's what I'm talking about.
Expressing Anger Appropriately
I mean, like, I could have even used a swearing word if I wanted to. In this case, I was just really, like, I think. I think I could go for the word rude, but because I thought the person was rude to me, and I gotta say, I couldn't do that. I think even a year ago, not precisely, you know, about the person. I'm nothing like, you know, that's not the question here. It's more about, like, I think I. I wouldn't have, I would have a longer time of reaction, you know, between the moment when my boundaries, I believe, are broken and when somebody, you know, unjustifyingly behaves towards me, even if in a very small way.
Recognizing Inner Strength
And I gotta say here, the smallest ways, like, the details where these small things, like, well, maybe I shouldn't be angry about that. This is, this is the most important part, I believe. Like, if you like this feeling in your gut that you've been wrong, that you kind of, like, especially for me as a woman, like, I find it really often happen in the past when I'm like, no, I shouldn't be, you know, that was just a bad joke. I shouldn't be angry about that. Just recently, like, I had a lot of angry moments. I gotta say, a lot. But I'm really proud of.
Embracing Anger for Personal Growth
I'm proud of my angry moments now. I mean, like, when I say angry, I mean, like that when I'm, you know, protecting my boundaries and protecting the way I believe I should be treated. And we also had this moment, like I was friends, and there was this just guy in the bar who just was kind of passive aggressive to me, even though I haven't talked with him. So I just kind of, you know, went to get my drinks, waiting with my friends, and there was just some passive aggressive stuff the person said, like, you know, asking everybody who's everybody, like, where everybody's from and everybody's like, you know, somebody was from UK.
Real-Life Challenges
Somebody like, my friend wasn't from America. And I'm saying, like, I'm from here, but I'm saying it English. And you can say that, like, I do have accent, but I. It's not a very usually ukrainian accent that I have. And so it's not obvious that I'm from here. And. And the person just goes, like, it's banal and, like. And I started, like. And I snapped right away. I even. I haven't had control that too much, but I was, like, rude but controllable. Like, I'm a man. Like, why do you go in there?
NAVIGATING SOCIAL BOUNDARIES
And, like, the man immediately went into, you know, into, you know, calling names and saying, like, you know, I'm looking. I'm looking for pussy. Like, immediately being, you know, dirty and rude. And I immediately went to the very, like, I just said, like, you know, fuck off. Just fuck off. Shut the fuck up. I haven't talked to you like, I've seen you for the first time. Like, I don't know you. Like, and just, like, don't talk to me. And then, like, everything just started out okay. You know, we’re like. We kind of were on the verge of the wildfire, unfortunately for somebody, boyfriend, but, like, ending up.
Strengthened Friendship through Conflict
But. And this is, like, you know, and I immediately went, like, describing his. To my friends, like, he's a pig, and. Okay, I hope you hear me, all right? Because I had a certain connection loss, but let me know. But, yeah, I know it sounds like there's a lot of aggressive episodes, but it's just, like, for me, it was. I think I just kind of felt like sharing with you because for me, it was a really dramatic change in terms that before that will, like, there will be a long time that will, like, you know, that will go from the moment when something happened like that.
The Impact of Personal Growth
When I was. I feel like. I don't like the word, but let's say, like, the bounties were violated. I don't really like that. Like, it's creepy sounding, but you know what I mean? Like, right? And, like, when I wanted to, you know, to say something back, right, how to have a comeback, but. But I realized that, you know, an hour ago, a day. An hour later, right. Like, a day later, I had these situations when I realized how wronged I was at the point. Like, you know, year later, like, few years, I was. And I was so pissed because the moment when I could, you know, come back with whatever, with.
Recognizing Past Experiences
With a word, with a slap, whatever was justified in the moment. It kind of, you know, went away, and after a year or two, it's just like. You look like a psycho, honestly, like, I feel I do. Like. Like, you know, like, I, like, remember you wrong. Like, what the fuck, girl? You've been listening all this? But, no, I haven't. It just kind of dawned on me probably after some, I don't know, realization changes, maybe some therapy I've been through maybe some events, so. But that's why I feel the, you know, the.
Embracing and Accepting Shadows
The broader talk about allowing yourself to swear and allowing yourself to be rude, especially, like, for everybody. I'm not trying to be, you know, sexy here in no way. I mean, like, all of us are different, but I just as, like, I don't have experience of what is. What it's like to be growing up as a, you know, as a boy, as a man. But I do know how it is to growing up as a girl. And, boy, do we have a lot of this, you know, expectation of us being nice, even, like, I never had expectation of being nice.
Cultural Expectations and Gender
Being brought on me by my parents, but I just ingrained it from everywhere, from, like, oh, you should smile more. That kind of thing. We all should smile more. But, I mean, like, why? Nobody tells it to boys. I mean, right? We all do need smile. Like, that's a good idea. But that's the whole drill. So, for me, it was really revelating. And just, like, I feel this is so important. I actually had a girl, like, coming, like, after that, like, after the second situation, it was harder because it kind of was, like, my friend in a way, so he was kind of in my circle, so to speak.
Complexities of Social Dynamics
But it's harder to be rude to these people, right? He wasn't a stranger, but I still kind of just snapped immediately. I was so proud, but I was proud of myself, but I haven't thought even about that. And this is the magic of that. This is why it's important to let it out in any way, because you cannot become, you know, free in a second. You cannot do that in a second. That's a process of you kind of, you know, owning. Owning your shadow self. I know it kind of sounds like we going into this magic zone, but I'm like that.
Understanding Shadows in Therapy
That's called, in therapy, it's called shadow self. You can call it a dark self. You can call it, like, altru, whatever works for you. But that's where the power is. Like, if you, like, I said it in the beginning, I had a bit more people join us just now, so I'm just repeating that because that's something I want you to bring home after, like, you know, after we done, after this end. After, like, a push end of the space, and it's, like, recorded. Like, that's. I think I'm gonna be coming back to that, and I think this is something, and I would love to hear, you know, your thoughts on that.
Purpose of the Podcast
But I think this is all of this podcast, all of this thing is actually about that. It's, like, about letting yourself out, letting out something that is there, but maybe, like, you're pushing it, you know, further down there somewhere, because, like, somebody along the way told you cannot be bad. And I have this saying, I really love that my friends from doneness use, like, you know, it's good to be bad. And when I say that, I don't mean in this psycho, evil, monstrous way.
Self-Acceptance
Right. I mean exactly what I say. I mean, like, allowing yourself to take all the space you need, especially most of the time, it actually doesn't, you know, doesn't get in the way of other people too much. It's just allowing yourself to be okay. I'm passionate about that. Okay. Because this is something I'm working on, too. But I just wanted to. Yeah, I just wanted to share that and just. Just to give you a thought, right? To give you a thought to when this podcast ends, maybe just to give yourself few minutes and kind of do this search and, like, see what exactly you feel is your shadow self.
Self-Discovery and Reflection
Like, what exactly do you feel you're repressing? Like, what exactly you're not allowing yourself to manifest? Manifest also sounds like we're going into this coach therapy way, but I'm very, like, I'm having my therapist since 2018. I had a pause for some way. I had a huge depression. Cause a bit, after a while, the full scale started. Like, I was in a really dark place, and I got out. Thanks to my great therapist, I was able to find things, like, thanks, Aksana.
A Passion for Healing
But I also, like, thanks to the work and thanks to the attention to this part. And so, yes, I'm passionate about that, and I think everybody should, because it will be just a better place for each of us. So getting back to our podcast and giving your. Your, giving you a space where you can vent and share how your week was. So I'm just, you know, getting it back to the topic. So that's basically what we are talking here about.
Connection with the Audience
And I always love that you join me for that. And we have a chance to have this, you know, Sunday talk where we kind of revisit. How do. How do we communicate our needs? Because this is basically about the needs, right? And when they are not met. And I haven't finished that part of the story. I mean, like, when I. When I told off that guy, like, you know, I just really. I was really good really quickly, just like, no, no, you don't do that with me.
Setting Boundaries
No, no. Like, that's okay. But this is, like, no, this is borderline, and that's okay, right? The person didn't know that. And, yes, he was a bit hurt, but that's okay. But he didn't ask. Like, he didn't ask, like, can I. Can I touch your hair? Like, because I would say, like, no. And I had this girl, like, shows she's, like, a friend of my friend, and she was like, wow, women. You were awesome. Like, that was so cool.
Positive Feedback
Like, and she went on for a while about that, like, and I suppose, like, first of all, I was very flattered, but also, like, I think because that could be a hard point for her. And I was. It was so humbling, but also cool to know that I wasn't, like, somehow after, like, I had so many situations where I couldn't stand up for myself the way I wouldn't want it. And I still. It still pains me, like, you know, that I wasn't there for myself when I needed it, but here I was, and it actually even set an example for somebody else, and maybe we'll, I don't know, inspire her.
Conclusion
So I guess that's it. I'm just really proud of allowing my shadow self to kind of get out. And the interesting thing about that. And after that, I will give you space to vent. So if you want to join me and share how your week was, you wanted to try out some ukrainian swearing or share your own swearing, like, that's your moment to prepare. You can send a request, like, using the mic in the bottom left. The thing about that, like, if any of you, like, for example, listen to me think, oh, yes, Margot, that's cool.
Discussion on Microaggression and Boundaries
I'm gonna check the comments, you guys. And because I saw some. Okay, so, as Jay shared, men who disrespect women's boundaries are creepy. Yes. Yes. To that. When women are touched by men whom we have no given permission, that is microaggression. That's interesting. I haven't thought. I thought, like, I don't think. I don't think. I'm not justifying that in no way, but I just think. I don't think that person thought of it as an aggression. It, though, felt like one. No, it actually felt like I was attacked when I was a kid. I was my sister. Thank God they weren't monsters. They were just creeping in, but they weren't monsters. So nothing really happened. But I was traumatized, and I do react, and, like, I don't. Not. Like when men I do not know or do not know closely touch me in any. Any way. In any way. So. Especially those who. Yes. As I agree with this, Jay, like, who haven't given whom I haven't given permit, whom I'm like, haven't given this, you know, label.
Feelings of Safety and Trust
Like, okay, they can do that because, like, he's my good friend, or, like, you know, he's like, my, like, the brother, my good friend. Like, whatever permission it is, like, something. Because for me, it's about safety. Because my feeling of safety was really breached when I was really little. And, like, I really need to, like, draw trust person. So. So, yeah, so I don't think the person was aggressive, though. I think just like, men kind of, like, I think people have sometimes really vague borders, boundaries. So they think, okay, I can touch him, I can touch her, or whatever. Maybe it's also a bit of, like, question of respect. But I do know it doesn't immediately mean that the person thought, like, they could do that to me, but it doesn't mean I cannot say, like, no, no.
The Complexity of Responses to Touch
I don't know what you think you can do to people, but you cannot do that to me. And I think the harsh part here is not to be afraid, you know, to lose someone, right. To kind of lose a friend, for example. Right? Because you've been rude. So. And it's actually a hard point here for me. So I think I haven't thought of that because, like, my alarm system kind of, like, my boiler alarm system reacted, like, faster than I. And so I haven't even thought it was like, just look. No. And then I like, yeah, I mean, like, I like the thinking that could be, you know, socially bad or something and how good it, like, that all came so much. It was also in public, so were kind of in a queue. So, like, you know, it's, It's so potentially, you know, ammunition someone in, like, a good thought. I'm thinking about stuff like that.
Public Perceptions and Reactions
Oh, okay. I shouldn't, you know, talk bad to person if I want to have a talk because they could be, you know, seen as public humiliation. But. But it just happened. Yeah, but. But, yes, I agree on the receiver's side. I do believe this is close. Not aggression, but, like, it's. It's close to feeling, you know, a mild sexual assault. Very mild. This is a very. It's not appropriate words to call it. So it's definitely, definitely not, you know, not. Not assault. I'm not trying to portray it like that, but I think it's how I feel it. Right? So, like, because I immediately go, like, okay.
Men's Touch and Assumptions
Man comes like, he's bigger than me. He's like, you know, touching me. Like, blah. And not because all men are bad. It's just like, what was like, I immediately go to this very scared place, and I do know that the person didn't know that. Maybe person thought, we are as good, like, as friends. We could do that. There are many men I actually met who, like, really vague on the touchy side, like, how much touching they could do. Not in a creepy way, but I mean, like, you know, hands, whatever. Like, so. So I do realize it could be about differences, but that's what I'm saying about.
Communicating Boundaries
Right. So whatever people feel they could do to you, like, to me, to somebody else, that's our job, to communicate back. Like, no, no. Like, that's. That's the thing. Janina says some people have told me I should smile more, wear makeup. Oh, I hear you on that. I hope I'm saying your name right, Janina. Yeah. I see requests. Jay, you're gonna be right up. You're coming right up. So I hear you on that one.
Reactions to Comments
Okay, I'm reading. Coming to the next. I usually answer for you. How about you let me pick your close so I would feel better and not care about how you feel? I was sorry. Oh, that's good. That's a good comeback girl. Okay. That's a good one. That's a good one. I love that. I do love that. Love, love. Okay. That's a message. It can be delivered in many ways.
Personal Experience Sharing
Janina. Sometimes I'm rude. Sometimes I'm nice but firm, but the message is the same. I do things for myself and not to please anyone else. Oh, bravo. I so support that. So, if you want to tell, answer Janina. She's in comments. That's a comment under this podcast, just under this space. So feel free. But I. So, if you want a genie to join and share, feel free. But I so agree on that. And this is a good comeback.
Experiences with Men
I'm gonna. I'm gonna, you know, pick it up. Like, I'm gonna. I'm gonna use it. Okay. If you don't mind. But, but that's a good thing. Yeah, I think, like, I don't. I don't think I was told I should wear makeup or something, but I did heard of a lot of, like, different versions of, like, I should smile more or, like, why I don't smile. Like. Or why I don't do anything.
Gendered Differences in Compliments
Well, that phrase usually, of course, like, no women ever told me that. That's always was coming from men in different situations, not from all men, thank God. I'm not telling all men are like this. Thank God for everybody, but. And for the world. But, but, yeah, but whenever it was situation, if there were men, and usually they were older than me and they thought they could do, like, aw, cutie. You want, like, that kind of thing.
Building Confidence to Speak Up
And, like, I think only when I became, you know, really, like, I think, like, older and just felt like I have power to, you know, to talk back and, like, strength and, in a way, status as well. So all of that together gave me a feeling that, like, and I can really talk back because I think when I was younger, I would kind of integrate that. So I would feel they're wrong, but I wouldn't really talk back. So it took me a while. So bravo to Eugenina. This is a great example.
Shared Experiences and Empathy
If you need a great comeback line, check the comments starzy shares as a victim of essay. Okay. I assume it's a sexual abuse or sexual assault. I don't think I'm good on terms, but. But I'm sorry to hear that. And also thankful you're sharing. I absolutely agree with what you're saying about people touching. Right, right. Again, sorry for.
Identifying Dangerous Situations
So sorry for. For your experience. But. But again, yeah, so I wasn't. I wasn't like. I think my experience started with I wasn't sexually assaulted, so to speak, but I was in a very dangerous situation as a kid with men surround, like, who technically probably assaulted us both, but they assaulted us for the money. The whole thing was really weird because they actually.
Aftermath of a Traumatic Experience
It was in the middle of the day, and were actually kind of public space, so weren't, like, technically, it wasn't super dangerous situation, but there were people, I don't think. I assume men, but I don't know, actually. I don't remember. But they were just watching. I remember as a kid, I was standing there and they didn't do anything, so it ended okay.
Reactions to Misbehavior
They even left us money for the ticking bathe. It was an inkey, if you see. So they were. I think what pissed me that they thought they're gentlemen, you know, like, they assaulted as there was actually, like, kind of violence happening, and they just like, oh, yeah. Oh, no, here's the money. So, coping magazines. Anyway, getting back to that. So, yes. So, yes.
Sharing and Listening Experiences
What I mean is that I thank you for sharing your experience. Thank you to all sharing experience. And also, you know, listening to mine. And. And I agree. That's. That's the thing. I think that's the thing about breaching anyone's boundaries, because we don't know what experience they had prior to that, and maybe something that is absolutely, you know, like, just.
Understanding Different Experiences
I had this moment when I was like. And somebody like, oh, Margaret is just like, you know, she's not a touchy person. I actually am very touchy person. I am. It just, you know, I just need to want touch these people that all. I mean, like, I love to hug people very much. I love to hold, like, a hand of a. Of a friend or, like, you know, or maybe a kid of a friend who needs support.
The Importance of Context
Like. Like, I'm not maybe super dutchy, but, like. But I just. I'm just. It really. The context is very important, but also, like, somebody could be, you know, having this experience again with some kind of sexual assault or abuse, and, like, that could be feeling so much differently. I really am. Help.
Addressing Sensitive Topics
Like, I'm really. Again, thank you so much, starzy, for bringing this up, because this is a very. This is a very great example of what I mean. I mean, like, that's. Something could be not just trivial, not liking touch people. Something might be so more, you know, more deep and problematic, and maybe even person works with that, but it doesn't change.
Triggering Past Experiences
Like, the fact that you just, you know, you just triggered something very dangerous that person needs to deal with. And you haven't asked and not you. Not you. Like, some right someone. And that's why, one hand, like, definitely we should be aware of that, but on the other hand, that's our job to communicate that back.
The Importance of Communication
That's our job to say, no, that was rude. That's my borderline. Like, that. That's my boundary. And, like, you just, like, don't treat me like that. And, like, and if you need actually that rude person, I think the fact that I was using so much that I escalated it so much to shut the fuck up and, like, get the fuck away from me actually helped, because I kind of felt like at the moment that I had, like, you know, I had just guns, like, immediately, you know, appearing in both of my hands, and I'm like, whoa.
Escalating Situations
The person goes for pussy. Like, the wording pussy. Trying to insult me. Like. Like, if I'm actually onto him, that's what the man was trying to do. Like, I'm not interested in you. I'm like, so. So that's what the. The strong swearing words are good for, because they just immediately, you know, could help you just charge the whole situation.
Mindfulness and Safety
And again, I'm talking, like, about being mindful, whether it's safe in terms of, like, if you can punch people in the face, please, can proceed. But, like, just also need to be aware, like, how safe it is on the phys in the physical realm as well, not just mental, but that's it. Okay, I'm gonna pause here and I'm gonna let SJ join us.
Sharing and Experiences
And while SJ joining, I just wanna remind you that if you wanna share how your week was, like, if you wanna band or end or, like, share your favorite swearing that you use this week, again, check the mic in the bottom. Okay. And, yeah, I was having a little. I was having a technical difficulty moment.
Reactions to Technical Issues
Okay. But each of us have some songs. Well, I just. I just came in from outdoors because after 10:00 it's too hot to be outside. Right. Texas weather sucks. And anyway, but I was going to say about, you know, microaggressions, those are actually insults or slights or behavior that is derogatory or insulting, and it's not necessarily intentional. And it's often towards women.
Impact of Microaggressions
And one of the most common things that is cited is, oh, you should smile more. Oh, fuck, that triggers me. Like, I know we're talking about that. Like, I'm sorry, I just wasn't receiving sight. Like, oh, fuck, that triggers. Yeah, I'm really sorry. Everybody heard me. No, no. But that is. Every woman can relate to that because, you know, it's like, oh, fuck you.
Discussing Unwanted Comments
You know, there is a cover. There is a covered version every time. Like, no. Like, I don't mean to offend anyone who ever written me that my smile is beautiful, but honestly, I always feel that, say, you know, that's intro. You know, that's an intro to. You should smile more. Because in my life, like, people go like, oh, my. Your smile is so beautiful, you should smile more.
Societal Expectations
So, for me, like, basically, when people compliment my smile, I'm kind of like. Well, it's like, everybody looks better when they smile, but you don't have to do that all the time. No, no. Like, I mean, when was the last time? Like. Like, I never heard anyone sell it to boys or Mendez. I don't know. Maybe you.
Gender Bias in Compliments
Like, maybe men here, like, who listen to me, have different experience, but, like, never in my life there was a boy near me. Like, you know, with kids, my lesson, like, I've seen boys with cute smiles, but I haven't seen anyone telling to a boy, like, oh, I should smile more. Like, I don't know you.
Further Discussions on Gender
SJ, have you heard it? Sjdehdeh. Okay, I lost J. It's J. Oh, you're trying to unmute microphone. I see what you're doing. Okay, I don't hear you. Maybe somebody else hears Jay. Probably that's the difficulty we're talking about. Okay, you know what we can do? You can.
Troubleshooting Communication
Okay, maybe that was. That's maybe on my side. 1 second. Hello? Oh, John. That moment, like, have you. Have you had. I don't know. Have you been near a boy or a man who've been told you should smile more? So what? I don't know. I couldn't hear you.
Resuming the Conversation
Oh. What about. What about now? Okay. Do you hear me now? We're back. It's like I lost the connection. It's. Okay. Yeah, that's the patriarchy. It's Elon. Elon. Yeah. But, yeah, my point is, like, what I was saying that I haven't heard or, like, see, I haven't been near boy or a guy or, like, a man who've been told they should smile more in the same, like, context.
Addressing Unique Experiences
So I think my point was, like, maybe I'm the only one. Maybe everybody else, like, have this experience, so maybe mine is unique, but. But, well, you know, I have not. You know, I have not ever seen that. And even, you know, I know a lot of gay men, and they don't say that to other gay men.
Differences in Compliments
Right. You know, it's. It's like. No, that's not a thing. Yeah, yeah, that's. That's my point. That's my point. But it kind of sounds like. I'm pretty sure they, like. Like, let's put it this way. I thank God.
Reflecting on Experiences
Hadn't had a lot of people who told me that, so I'm not telling that, you know, everybody does it, but, like, whenever it happened, I'm pretty sure if I'd asked this person, like, why the fuck, like, why is happening? I'm pretty sure that the man. Or, like, well, usually it's men in my life. Usually it's men, like, who?
Older Men and Authority
Old. Like, somebody who's older than me, and they feel they have a torch to talk down to me in this, you know. You know, like, not. Not like it. Not. Angela. I'm not sure about the word, but, you know, like, kind of making me a smaller way.
Perceptions of Objectification
Well, it's. It's to make sure that, you know, that you are less than they are, in a way. But I'm sure. I'm not sure they wouldn't think of that this way. I mean, like, I'm pretty sure, like, if I tell that, they will go like, oh, no, they just, like, you're beautiful with your smell.
Objectification in Society
That's an objectification thing where. Well, yeah, I mean, it's, you know, it's. It's like women have to be, you know, it's like our purpose in life is to look nice so that we can and attract men. Well, maybe we don't want to attract men.
Challenging Societal Norms
And, you know, we certainly don't. You know, it's certainly creepy for, you know, somebody to just say, oh, you'd look so much better if you smile and you just. And at that point, you just want to kick them in the nuts. Okay, we need to.
Triggering Emotions
I just realized we need to rub that. I feel that it really triggers me, and I'm really sorry today. I'm sorry. Probably triggered all of you by Charlie, I'm sorry. But yeah, but I agree. I agree with you.
Reflections on Experiences
Like, and I want to stress here. I want to stress that I was blessed not to have many, you know, experiences like that in life. So I wouldn't say, like, I have. I've met and I'm surrounded by. By great men, like, great, like, whatever.
Positive Relationships
Like, great people. So that I'm not trying to say all men are doing this to me, like, or to us, but. But definitely some of that experience is there anyway, so. But I agree. It's interesting. I haven't.
Understanding Microaggressions
I think I haven't heard of the term microaggression, like, but that's. That's nice way to put it. Oh, by the way, I have a more comment. Susam at Suzak. Rarely do the ones telling us to smile more give us any reason to smile. That's a good one.
Addressing Unreasonable Expectations
Burn. That's a good one. I so agree. That's. That's actually usually the case. This is funny, though. This is a good comeback. Good comeback. Caesar M. Like, please, anyone, like, save it.
Encouraging Comebacks
Save it in your mental, like, you know, mental boxes for whenever you need a comeback. That's a good one. Like, you know, if somebody, like, tells you smile more, you could say, like, give me a reason to smell you, and then you can insert whatever you feel is appropriate coming from, like, whatever to pig.
Sharing Personal Anecdotes
Whatever fits the situation. You know the drill. But, like, I think it's a good comeback. I would love to see what this. Whatever have to say. One of the things that came to mind was a situation, and this was back in, like, 1980 or 81, and I was in Washington, DC, and I was going to graduate school, and there were.
Reflections on Past Experiences
We went, went out for pizza and beer, you know, at a local dive. And what is. What is dive? You mean, like, it's the name of the. No, no, a dive is a place that is, you know, I mean, they got cheap food or, you know, it's just kind of.
Explaining Local Culture
It's a local place that's, you know. Cheap tables, maybe sticky tables. huh. That kind of place. Anyway, so there's eight women at this table, and we are, you know, we are having. We are engaged in conversation and, you know, just generally having a good time.
Encounters with Intrusive Behavior
And this guy comes over to our table who. Who has obviously had a few too many to drink, and he says, well, I see you ladies are alone. Well, that is a bad pickup line. Like, that's. That's three way bad pickup line. Unprofessional. That was stupid.
Rejection of Unwanted Attention
And anyway, know. And then he wouldn't. We talk. I'm sorry. This is hilarious. We told him to get lost, and anyway, he persisted and anyway, and then, so he hurled what he thought was an insult at us.
Uncomfortable Situations
And we just cracked up because we just. And at that .1 of his friends who said, oh, my God, these women are going to kill him, he came over and got his friend, and he said, I'm really sorry. I'm taking my friend home. You know, sorry for the interruption. You know, have a nice evening. Right, right. Well, that's. Yeah. Thank you. Like, I want to give a shout out to men who do that. I mean, like, you know, that, you know, that they take their drunk and really obnoxious, insulting friends. Obnoxious friends and, like, and say sorry for them, you know, and then all this, you know, ball drill. So, like, I like unsung heroes of drunk extravaganza of their friends. That's, that's my thank you to everybody of you guys.
Support and Recognition
Like, that's, like, I actually had situated. Like, there was recently, there was a thing that actually, a girl like it, like, you know, verbally tried to insult me, I think, because she was sad. It was in the funeral of our friend, and she was clearly, like, sad, but she tried to really weirdly insult me and, like, implying really dirty stuff. But the thing is that her friends, men friends, by the way, so thank you again. Like, I'm not being sexy. They actually took her. Like, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. She's like, what do you do? And just brought her somewhere. So I'm like, oh, okay. I'm like, I'm not, like, in this situation, I kind of feel the responsibility, you know, like that. I've been told soy by a more adequate person in this. In this group. So I'm not taking. I'm not holding grudges.
Acknowledging Challenges
Like, I don't feel that I need to do something with the. This person. So I'm like, but. But, yeah, but, like, thank you. That. Thank you. When you do that's. That's a really needed function. Like, you know, to be there and take your drunk friend and, like, just say, sorry, he's stupid or she's stupid. Yeah, yeah. Just a quick thing. I see another request. Andrew, you're gonna be next. So I see that. Don't. Don't. Don't go anywhere. Yeah. So that's a beautiful story, as I really enjoy that, and I'm gonna pass it over. I think that's beautiful. That's. That's a good one. But that's like, oh, my God. Like, I. Like, I've had people. Like, I've had men coming up to me saying, like, I see you alone, but I was really alone in that moment.
Conversations and Misunderstandings
But, like, telling that to eight women, man, this is, like, just stupid. Like, if you ever will try to come, like, if men listen to me right now, you ever wanted to try to come to a group of women who are, like, more than one, like, what a group means. Don't. Don't tell them this line. I mean, there are many lines. Many lines, many ways to do that. Like, be mindful, you know, like, do your homework. Like, prepare, please. We appreciate good work. Right? We do, right? Like, we appreciate good work. Coming up to eight person saying, I see you alone. This is just bad homework. Like, this is just. This is just disrespectful pickup line. Yeah. Anyway, okay, I'm stopping here.
Concluding with Humor
But that's beautiful. Thank you. But how was the. How was your week? How is your renovation? Well, the renovations are done, but it's too damn hot to clean up anything. Oh, my God. It's done. And we haven't celebrated. I'm waiting till it gets cooler to celebrate because, like, in Wayne's. Well, I don't know. It's. It's like there's. I'll put it up on the. I'll put it in the comments somewhere. But there's a sign on a restaurant here. They have one of those portable signs that you can change the letters on. And anyway, there's one that they did last year that is just perfectly appropriate. And this was in May of last year. Okay. And it's. Be sure to drink plenty of water and go inside before 11:00 a.m.
Weather and Preparation
until November 2. And they were not far off because. Yeah. And so anyway, do you. Do you drink plenty of water? Do you drink. I see. I hear glasses. I assume it's water. Oh, yeah. I'm, you know, I'm. I'm multitasking. I'm emptying the dishwasher. Okay. That works. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. And, yeah, it's. It's just, you know, it's just, you know, and we're. I'm constantly drinking water or tea or, you know, something, you know, and not alcohol because then you get more dehydrated. Yeah. And it's just stupid hot right now. And. Yeah, but I taught you how to say that in Ukrainian, and it hurts me.
Cultural Insights
You don't have. Wait. Oh, yo. Yo. Yes. Thank you very much. Yeah, everybody. Yo bonapakla is fucking hell. Definitely. But also, like. Also because, like, factis, like, to burn. So it's literally, like, not just hell, like, assuming it's hot in hell, but also, like, it actually have the meaning of, like, something that is burning or where it's really hot. So. So that's ideal. Ideal. So if you. I hope not. But if you have the same problems or similar that SJ's having with weather job on the pack, law is for you, use it. Use it mindfully. Okay. So what was. So the one last one, and I'm setting you free.
Swearing and Real-life Reflections
What was the most you swearing this week? So I'm sorry, I need to say that properly. Have you swear? Oh, absolutely, my dear. Yeah. And it was like, you know, yo Bono Rusnia all the way around. That's your favorite. You stick into it. Yeah. It's like bad drivers, you know, stupid politic crap. You name it. It's like, yeah, I just love it so much. Like, I've been telling everybody that I have this great listener from tech who is using yo Banarosna instead of, like, fuck. And basically combining psychologically in minds of people. Yoru snap was just, you know, something fucked up.
Understanding Language Nuances
So. Because technically, you see, like, if you don't know it yet, those who listen to us right now, yo ban is technically translated as fucking Russians from Ukrainian. But SJ evaluated this, so she's just using it instead of, like, fuck. So. And I appreciate that. Like, SJ is our ambassador of swearing in Texas, so feel free to reach out to her if you know by. She will tell you all the drill. Thank you. Thank you for that. Thank you. Bye.
Shifting the Tone
Yeah, bye bye. Okay, so just a quick moment. Andrew, I see you, and I'm joining in. Bob, I see you too. You're gonna be next. And also while Andrew preparing just checking the comments because. Okay, so we have comment from. We've been trying to reach you. I actually love this account name. So Ella Royo is a no in gem. Okay, so I suppose it's restaurant. My soulmate is out there somewhere pushing a pool door.
Reactions and Humor
Okay. I didn't get it. I feel really weird right now because I usually get the jokes, but. I'm sorry. I'm embarrassed to say that I didn't get it. But tell me if you get it. Anybody who reads it in comments, let me know. Okay? Andrew, you're on. Hi. What brought you here today, my child? Have you sweared this week you should unmute your mic if you want to start speaking.
Serious Conversations
Andrew, I'm sorry, I didn't notice that there was a microphone. It's okay, it's okay. What brought me is I just got the notice that there was a live event. So I wanted to ask and there's been a very nice, light hearted mood, but I have something a little more serious or I just want some information when the russian boots are finally gone, I want to come to Ukraine and I have some finances. I would like to know what would be the best way to.
Exploring Eastern Ukraine
I would like to come to the east. Like to Dness or Kharkiv or Luhansk. The places that have had the worst of it, as far as I can tell. Would. Are the government still intact so that I could maybe go to the town hall or are there churches? And of course, I'm retired americana and. And I. I don't know any Ukraine, so I would need someone that speaks English. But what do you all recommend?
Determined Plans
Because I'm coming no matter what. I'm getting on a plane when everyone's. All the Russians are gone. I'm flying into Kyiv and I'm going to take a train as far as east as I can go. And I need to know if I have to stand in the middle of a square with money or with paper or with anything. I'm coming. Well, first of all, Andrew, first of all, I wanted to thank you know, for your thought and for your readiness and, you know, for.
Support for Ukraine
Yeah, just, you know, even for joining us today and share that. But second of all, you surely like, if anyone who's listening to us right now wanna, you know, add something, maybe add something in comments, maybe reach out to Andrew and share, you can do that as well. But if you ask me. So I would say this. Well, first of all, I will not try to romanticize or sugarcoat it. Okay, that's ten years of the worn out.
Reflections on Change
Whenever somebody tells me when russian boots are out of Ukraine. And I suppose what you mean is, like, out of every places of Ukraine, right? So, like, that we restored to the borders of 1991. Well, maybe with a bit of kursk region. I'm joking. But, like, we kind of restored to the moment when it was prior to invasion of 2014. And, you know, the war is, so to speak, ended, which, let's be honest, we all, like, it's not working like that since we will have.
Continuing Struggles
Like, it doesn't just end in a second, but still, let's assume you mean that. The thing is, we all talk about the end of the war kind of like New Year's resolution. Like, oh, shit, not this year, maybe the next one. But when it just started in 2014, it's okay if you want to laugh at that. Like, that's. That's. To everyone. Like, it's okay. we have jokes like that in Ukraine a lot, but, when it started in 2014, I, I don't think if anybody told me that it's going to be ten years after that and we still have it, and it's actually escalated to this extent that I need to hide from north korean missiles coming into my city.
Coping with Reality
So I wouldn't be like. Like, I wouldn't believe that. I think. But we are exactly there. And I'll be honest. I know that you guys want to cheer for us and probably, like. And you do cheer, and it's probably a hard truth, but the hard truth is, like, we have no idea when the war going to end. And by that, I really mean that we don't have any idea, like, when it's going to end and when Ukrainians plan what they're going to do after, like, it really ends.
Anticipations and Realities
I know it's the thing that supports us. Like, it's just, like, know when. When the evil is gone, I'm gonna go to my favorite spot, whatever. But when foreigners tell me that, and I'm saying that, you know, lightly, so I'm just, like, somebody who is, you know, not need to deal with that in the country. So, I, like. I really don't know what to tell you because it's not like we're talking about next year or like, I don't know what we're actually talking about, but that's just the timeline problem.
Expectations from Organizations
But this is something that you can expect from organizations. So, like, that's a basic thing. Like, you know, you can say, like, can you candinal be. Mostly people know about that. You can try and ask about that. Like, mostly people know that they need to provide, well, at least some kind of report. Like, you know, we brought this. Yeah. So that's the basic extravaganza, right, of all of this.
Support for Ukraine
And just finally, there is a tremendous amount of what's in the press and what is broadcast out of the United States in regard to the support for Ukrainians. And I. I don't know how many people here are in the Ukraine, but I hope that they are not fooled into thinking that there's any large number of real Americans that oppose assistance to Ukraine. Those that you hear that oppose it is a small. Is a small number, maybe 30%. But most Americans hope that the Ukraine recovers its independence and its strength and can become a world leader. Leader. And. And also, I hope that you will accept our apology for not defending Ukraine. I'm very sorry.
Initiatives and Volunteer Organizations
Thank you, Andrew. Thank you. Thank you. Bye. But one last thing. I'm just like, you don't need to switch on just one last thing, Andrew. That was not just me, you know, trying to be nice. You can reach out later, and I could try to, you know, think of whom you to put in touch. And this is actually true for any of you guys who listening to us right now and to me right now, hour, maybe, when it's recorded. So it might take me time. I wouldn't say that I can do this in a day, but I'm getting a, I'm getting better and getting in the work vibe, and it might take me time, but I could try to put you in touch if there is any initiatives that you'd like to connect or maybe if you have questions about any volunteers organizations, maybe who reach out to you.
Active Ukrainian Initiatives
I wouldn't try to dare to say that I know all ukrainian initiatives right now because we have tons. That's precisely why I'm telling you that Ukrainians are really good in. That's why we joke that, you know, that there's something Russians do not understand, that we don't have. One center of decision making, like, well, obviously we have something like that, probably like a military sense, but then we have all these separate units. And even in the civilian matter, I mean, like, in terms of volunteering, that's absolutely like the case we have. Every Ukrainian I know is doing something, and usually not in one group.
Complexities of Volunteerism in Ukraine
So everybody I know is doing something separate. Not in a bad way, like separate, but kind of like something different Ukraine, which means that you cannot really kill it off because everybody who is, you know, who is everybody separate Ukrainian will start doing something when it's needed, even if, like, somebody else couldn't do that. And it kind of just happens. And that's. We have a lot of, you know, conflicting characteristics as Ukrainians. We have some trust issues sometimes because of our, I like, past legacy, but what we are good at is this smaller initiatives. We are very active in that.
Navigating Local Initiatives
And so it's not possible, humanly possible, to know everything that is happening, because we have, even within the different districts of the city, we have very local organizations, initiatives that could be caring for, I don't know, elderly people or maybe just volunteering for helping the food or maybe helping with the animals, and then we have bigger ones. So that's why I might not know immediately, but I can try to ask because I think it will be easier for me anyway than for you if you're abroad.
Planning Amidst Ongoing Conflicts
But as for finishing the question, Andrew, for the future, when this kukuo ends, well, it's your choice to reach out now or try to reach out later. I don't know what's going to be later. Like, I don't know if you noticed, but this is one of the problems when you live in war for such a long time. In one hand, you kind of need to plan, and you kind of plan, but in the other, like, in the same time, sometimes I don't know what's, like, what's my plan for the day? Not in a beautiful sense, but kind of like, I'm just kind of focusing one next.
Challenges of Planning in War
What's next? So. Well, so that's why it's pretty hard to plan that afar, especially since it's so traumatic, to be honest. Not because it's bad when it ends, but it just kind of because I'm not sure when. And even sometimes, I'm not sure if that's a sad part, so. But. But you're still very welcome to reach out. Okay. I think Andrew left. I hope he. But that's also true for you guys as well.
Feedback and Support
Bob. Okay, Bob, I'm joining you in and I'm just quickly checking some of the comments. Okay, so it's so thank you, SJ, for the links. Just Bob, 1 second. 1 second. So somebody, as Jay shared, pushing a pool door, a door marked pool to open this person. Okay. Okay. That's funny. Okay, now I realized it. Okay. Thank you very much, Starsey.
Discussion on Various Organizations
Edit. Small organizations are always better because they are much more direct and faster. Un 24 was just the first. So I thought of. Thank you, Starsee. No, no. Like, that's a good thought. I'm, that's, once again, I'm not trying to discredit. I could discredit yuan, though, a bit. And Red Cross. I have questions to them, but I mean, like, I'm not trying to discredit fully.
Concerns About Donations
Like, I mean, some, like, you know, like, everybody does something. okay. That didn't come out right. Anyway. I didn't mean to discredit per se. I just wanted to say that if you really like asking me, really asking me, like, what to do to, like, to make a difference, to change something, like, to be sure that the money, concrete money you give in are not spent, you know, on something. I don't know what's going to spend because, like, for bigger organizations, I'm not sure.
Smaller Organizations vs. Larger Ones
I don't know how reporting works, but I'm not sure you can actually say, like, oh, please provide me a report for the, like, 200, whatever. Like, I, you know, even, like, any amount that I've sent, provide me the report. Right. But smaller organizations, you can do that. You might not be able to say, like, report for that, but at least they will be able to show, like, okay, we did that. Like, thanks to all of your donations. Right? So you will need still to have some amount of trust.
Trust in Organizations and Reporting
But let's be honest with big organizations. Like, you also do that. And, like, people kind of automatically believe you are in Red Cross. And let's be honest, they are conflicting. Like, you're probably seeing what they like. It's the same with HRV, HRW, Human Rights Watch, and like, the amnesty, who also like gathering, like funding, like raising the donations for their work, but still kind of, like, that's what I mean.
Volunteers and Reporting
Like, you will need to have some amount of trust, but you also can ask for reports, like I said, and then all of the launchers know about that. Usually volunteers, especially foreigners, they call it. Well, at least something that I do. I usually offer that, like, no worries, I will provide you some kind of reports back. So stars also shared, I'm currently studying Ukrainian language.
Learning Ukrainian Language Resources
Any websites or anything you recommend. Well, I would recommend, like, I will like, it depends your style. Like, like, whether you want a teacher or you want to learn on your own. If you're just starting, Duolingo is, like, there are a few questions, but it's pretty good. But there were actually many other great recommendations. I need to have a good list of that. Thank you for reminding me.
Recommendations for Learning Resources
But if anyone wants to recommend starsi, what to use to learn Ukrainian, feel free to go in comments. I mean, what helped you guys, right? What you using it, what you learn it with and. Okay, okay. I think that's it for now, I think. And thank you. We've been trying to reach you. Thank you for the link as well.
Wrap Up and Acknowledgments
Yeah, I think that's it. Okay, great. Bob, I'm sorry for the wait. Thank you for waiting. And did you swear a lot this week? Well, there's, there was a situation that I wanted to ask your input on how to, how you might swear about it in Ukrainian. But first I thought I would try pronunciation from a Yemenite phrase you mentioned last time.
Swearing in Ukrainian
So is it nihuya sobi? yeah, that's a good one. Yeah, nihuyasuke. Yeah, that's a good one. Do you remember that? Do you remember the case when to use it? Well, it's like an. Well, I feel weird even swearing, you know, in English in this case, but it's like, f me, like a bad situation, right? Yeah, but it also can be, like, kind of slightly.
Insights on Contextual Swearing
Okay. It can be like, whoa. So, like, I don't know, something which is like, it's not as awesome as, like, yeah, I wouldn't say it's awesome, but it could be, like, neutral surprise. So I would be like, not exactly bad, but, yeah, that's a good one. Thank you. Yeah.
Behavior in Public Spaces
Okay, so my tempo on that needs maybe a little bit of adjustment, but, as far as what happened this week and you, we've kind of been talking about bad behavior on the part of men. I was at the gym yesterday, and, you know, there's etiquette in the gym where, you know, you should rewire, re rack your weights, like, take the weights off of the machine and put them back where they came from.
Observations at the Gym
And I saw this guy who was working out slowly and kind of doing multiple stations and tying up two stations at the same time and then exercising wrong and then just walked away. That always happens, right? That always happens. Piles of weights on the machine. And I guess in English, I would have just said, like, what a jackass. You know, I would have said that to myself.
Translating Expressions
So what would someone say in Ukrainian in this case? I would say mudak. Yeah, mudak. Mudak. Mudak. Yeah, mudak mu. Like moo and duck like crap. Yeah. Okay. Well, that probably depend who you ask. I think that's just like you said. And immediately that's the one I went to.
Appropriately Used Insults
I probably could say kozal, which is just goat, just Ukrainian for goat. But I think, like, I would probably immediately go for Madak. And it actually, it's actually not very kind of vulgar, but it not that it's not that vulgar as Nihuyasubi. So you're kind of even in a safe zone. But, though, if this person is from, if they understand Russian or Ukrainian, you might be.
Navigating Language and Sensitivity
Yeah, you might be, in trouble, because that's pretty insulting. Is it? Anyway. Yeah, yeah. So I would say, like, yeah, it is. It's not like, I don't know, not like huge money, which is like fucking dick, but a bit stronger. So. But, but it's pretty insulting. Like, I wouldn't call my friend Modak.
Defining Insults in Context
Okay, so Buddha, I would call him only if I want to bring him attention that he, you know, he's behaving stupidly and he's, like, losing something important, but it's still insulting, so. Okay. Yeah, but I mean, it's like, you need to know these words. I'm not sure, by the way, some of the words I know that Poland will know, like, you know, like Kibali people from Poland and then Romania and probably still like, yeah, I'm not sure.
Cultural Nuances
Like, my understanding. I'm not sure about Mudak here, though, so you might be safe there or you might try and tell me how it works. I think I'm probably safe using it here, but. Okay. Okay. You can do that. You can do that.
Language and Its Contexts
Yeah, but thank you. You have nice pronunciation on who he has to be. Pretty impressed. Thanks. Okay, sure. Okay. Thank you for joining Bob and. Yeah, so I'm gonna be slightly wrapping up, I know, from my side, so I wanted to release a bit more of this wearing packs, but I kinda, I kind of feel that I'm, like, getting into the place where I can actually write bigger stuff again, because I think kind of the events of these three weeks kind of wrecked me a little bit.
Personal Reflection and Healing
But I'm getting better. I think I had kind of I wouldn't call it vision, but I had kind of a moment when I kind of felt that my friend is okay yesterday. Well, I mean, as okay it can be. So I think it helped me. So I think I'm kind of getting back. That is my way to see. Sorry I haven't released more of the swearing Ukrainian packs, but I will.
Looking Forward
And as for today, I'm gonna leave you with. We had few great swearings today. I'm not gonna put them in the comments, to be honest. Just gonna leave it here. But we had a great one with Johan, which you guys probably know already whether it was Yobane Baklo, which is basically fucking hell. So very fitting when it's very hot.
Memorable Phrases
There was also nihuyasubi that Bob just used, and that's a great one. Like, basically, yeah, fuck me. When something surprising happens, usually, like, a bit bad. But it could also be, like, kind of just surprising and neutral. It could be even a bit good. So it depends. You can try it out, how it works for you.
Concluding Thoughts
And I'm gonna leave you with my new favorite that I'm using recently. It's Yibani hui. I'm using it, actually, as I realized, for the. For the. Oh, actually, there'll be two favorites right of this week. So Yubani, who is basically instead of fuck. Okay, I'm gonna. I'm gonna write it down. I just realized that it's good for you to have it.
Insults in Translation
So it's Yvonne Hoi. It's kind of like fucking dick, but it's not in this way. So I think I will just. I think it's like, fucking hell. Ibane hui. But technically, hui is a dick. So, So that's why translation doesn't really. Doesn't really work. That's the problem.
Language Adaptation
So why? It's. Why it's. Well, it works, but, like, you know, that's rather adaptation than translation, so it's. And I'm not sure how good. I'm not sure how good. Twitter knows who. So I'm having an asterisk.
Reflections on Swearing
So, so it's. I'm using this. Fucking hell. I'm using, hui, who is penis, right? In swearing Ukrainian, just so you know. It's like fucking. Fucking penis, actually. But, but I mean, fucking hell. And, okay, I'm gonna add Yobani Pac law, which was easy earlier, right?
Expressing Frustrations
Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Have Italian instead of English. What the fuck? What the fuck? I also do what the fuck a lot, by the way, like. Or fuck. So I'm doing that as well. so you're gonna back law. Okay. You're gonna back law a lot of fucking hell.
Using Humor in Language
It's also fucking help. Okay, I'm. But, but fucking hot. Like how? Okay, let's do it this way. Yeah. Okay. That was another one, which was nihu Yasu be that. That Bob used today. Nihu yasu be, which is basically. Fuck me.
Almost Done
Okay, almost done. Almost done. So be okay. Who has to be okay? And the last one, the. The last one, but not the least is the one that I used about the whole funeral of my friend is Havana. I don't know, it's. It's literally shit.
Dealing with Emotions
Just literally shit. It's technically insulting. Not that insulting. Not this, not that swearing as the sex related group. Right. Like, but who that. But yeah, but it's literally shit. And yeah, just use it late, like, you know, sucks. It was the word of the day for me.
Caution in Language Use
Yeah. So should be. Should be careful when you use that if people can understand because technically it can apply to situation. Right. So I was standing in that bar and I said, like, no, that I need it. So, like, oh, my God. No, no, your food is awesome.
Final Reflections
You know, like, everything is great. Like, the drinks are awesome. Just like, you know, the. I just feel. Feel shit. So that's it. So that's it. That's for this week. So yeah, so for. Okay, so I think the one who had questions.
Additional Comments
Okay, starzy probably left. Okay, so if you want, you can share also in comments. Where do you learn Ukrainian? If you learn Ukrainian, what you, what helps you? Like what apps, what websites? Because sometimes I have questions about that.
Community Engagement
And I would love to share something from your experience. Not just something, you know, like, that I think is working, but something that you feel is working for you so that I can share it around. Okay, I'm gonna finish here because I feel that my throat is getting, like, sore.
Wrapping Up
So I'm gonna wrap it up here. And I want to thank you again for joining, as always. Kind of reminder that feel free to support our initiative for the kids. So September is getting closer. So I would love to get back to our therapy sessions for our kids in from Hirson region.
All About Supporting Children
They're gonna be one year older. Oh, my God. They're gonna be 13. Wow, that's tough. I just realized that's a tough age. Okay. They're gonna need some more therapy. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Freak out now.
Initiative for Kids
Anyway, anyway, feel free if you want to support summonation and you didn't know what, feel free to use if PayPal works for you. PayPal is a bit better because just logistically a bit easier because I will just send it directly from the PayPal to the person, but if not used by me.
Clarifying Payment Options
Coffee? I know. I know. I'm mad about what they did with Ukraine. Not with Ukraine. They didn't do it with Ukraine. I'm not trying to justify, but they did it with this provider. So it's like. And unfortunately, it's not in the news that Ukraine has, like, we didn't have file really for a long time, so we have them just recently.
Navigating Financial Support for Ukraine
But I have a way to work it out because of my previous work abroad. So you can still use buymecoffee for supporting initiative I'm engaging with. Unfortunately for other Ukrainian accounts, you need to double check because it really depends what ways these people have and whether.
Emotional Perspective
Whether it's working for them. I'm mad, yes, but also, I'll be honest, I'm pretty grateful for the work, like, for the support they did before it. So it's. It's been a really good service for these, like, two years for me. And so it's hard for me to say on the bad stuff about them.
Conclusion
So they've been pretty good. So unfortunate. Unfortunate that they decided to disengage with that service right now. Now. But that's all I'm gonna say here. But again, as for other Ukrainian accounts, that if you're supporting them, you should double check.
Possible Alternative Payment Platforms
But I think some of them will go to Patreon. But I just want to stress that Patreon was a shit to one of the big Ukrainian initiatives. I think they kind of sorted that out. But there was a really weird situation. They kind of just hold the money and didn't give them back.
Navigating Challenges
So I would. I would like that. Just put it this way. All of these providers can create weird situations. So. But just, yeah, so just we kind of navigate in between them. I had the question from you. Like, it is default buy me a coffee of providers that supports them.
Guidance on Support Platforms
I like they officially said that it's connect. They disengaged, working with the buys. So basically. And something else, something that was basically making it possible to work with Ukraine. There is another way to do that using stripe, but stripe, there is, like, really complicated thing with stripe.
Stripe Complexity
So it's not that, shared as payPal, if I can put it this way. So. But, yeah, this is unfortunately, considering how many Ukrainian accounts, were on. Bye.
End of Discussion
Coffee. I don't know. Like, you know, I'm not part of buying a coffee. I have no idea what's behind the decision, beside the fact what they said in the email they sent everybody who isn't buying my coffee, basically. But yeah, certainly many of us will need to find other ways to do that.
Acknowledgements
Anyway, I'm stopping here. thanks again for joining. just wanted to clarify this thing because many of you asked me, but I probably will do like a separate post when I get my shit together because, so I managed to get some sleep today, but honestly, to being waking up by siren twice in a row is a bit shitty.
Feedback and Closing Thoughts
So. Okay, one, I see some comments here, I will try to check it out. No, no more comments. Okay. I'm sorry if I haven't seen some of your comments. I will get back to it and answer later. And what else, what else, what else? No, I think that, yeah, I think that's it.
Final Gratitude
And as always, if you want to support my reporting, you know how to do that. And just a quick, quick thanks to you guys who's, yeah, who's been, you know, sending me coffee and sending me good words during these days. I haven't answered as much to these things as I usually do, but just, it's been a bit tough.
Reflections on Support
But I'm really, really thankful you guys, you know, you guys in this podcast as well as, you know, those who might listen later and all of my followers, I feel like all of my readers, I feel that you guys helped me to, yeah, to kind of get through. I'm still, I'm still not through, I'm still getting through.
Shared Experiences
But I kind of felt it was something that grounded me, like just when my mom died, actually, I had a podcast just two days after that and I thought for a second to cancel it because of how a mess I was. But then I actually felt that this something that I can hold on to in a way, it wasn't the best podcast.
Community Connections
I think it was just like 30 minutes or something. So it was like three weeks ago. But, but it helped me. And, because what helps you is something to hold on to, in a way, like something to continue doing. And so that is absolutely not something I thought when I just started it kind of impulsively, but I am thankful for that.
Gratitude for Participation
Thank you for sharing your time and energy with me and your thoughts and experiences and, you know, coming here and joining me and, you know, like, and then sharing some awesome comebacks. I mean, like Janina, I remember your great comeback. That's a good one.
Closing Remarks
So, yeah, so thank you for that. Thank you for your ongoing support. Thank you for trusting.
